Communicating The American Way – Daily Machete Review


Sunday, February 3rd, 2008
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Mike Thomas, who reviews business related books, reviewed ours, which has just come out in January 2008. I have to express my appreciation for his review, which like the other review we got (see the post on my blog) was unsolicited by us; however, we are grateful that he got it! he understood the purpose of writing this book. Even though I have lived here for more than 26 years, I still make (some smaller…..) mistakes. Oh do I wish that I had had this kind of information when I came back to the US (UC Berkeley) as a young adult, I would have avoided making an a…of myself many times.

 

Book Review: Communicating the American Way

 

Communicating the American Way, by Elisabetta Ghisini and Angelika Blendstrup, Ph.D., provides foreign workers moving – and working in – the States with an accurate snapshot of American business culture.

 

But Ghisini and Blendstrup could just as well be reminding American professionals on how they should conduct themselves.

 

Ghisini and Blendstrup admit the first chapter that their book is “very Silicon Valley-centric in terms of the conventions and mannerisms it describes.” This statement alone counters any “that’s not how it happens in my neck of the woods” argument coming from any Americans who read the book.

 

The authors provide a good snapshot of U.S. business (and cover a lot of ground) in Chapter 2. The running theme in Chapter 2 is that time is absolutely everything, as is evident when they write “American culture is dominated by a dynamic – some would say relentless – pace of life, especially on the east and West coasts.” That’s certainly true for many regions of the U.S. – particularly large metro areas like New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco and Chicago. That regionally disputable point , however (for smaller cities like Savannah, Binghamton and Billings), is addressed in Chapter 1.

 

They also illustrate a sample of the inane small talk that’s as cliche` (e.g. how are you/great/let’s do lunch) as it is necessary in networking and making business pleasantries. I like the space they leave for the reader to write down their interpretation of a sample exchange so they can compare it with the “actual” interpretation supplied by Ghisini and Blendstrup. This brief exercise is designed to contrast their readers’ native culture with that found in the U.S.

 

Therein lies the sole area of improvement I found with their otherwise fine book. In their future collaborations, I’d like to see more of these exercises, preferably at the end of each chapter. In this way, readers can be given immediate opportunities to practice what they have just read, thus solidifying the recently digested information. Ghisini and Blendstrup may wish to consider including an interactive CD in future editions of Communicating to provide this valuable learning opportunity.

 

The authors provide some tips on how to give a U.S. style presentation in Chapter 4. And, while Ghisini and Blendstrup present many valid presentation pointers, they also accurately note that public speaking styles are difficult to teach – and learn – using the written word. There are many resources available from which to choose when attempting to build and hone public speaking skills, such as Dale Carnegie, Toastmasters and even hiring a pro for one-on-one coaching.

 

Chapters 5 and 6 (”How to Hold Productive Phone and Conference Calls” and “How to Use E-Mail Effectively”) are, like the chapters preceding them, geared for foreign workers coming to the U.S., but should be mandatory reading for professionals born and raised in the States. Hey – who hasn’t dealt with unproductive phone calls and time-wasting emails? If every professional in the U.S. read just these two chapters, productivity and efficiency would skyrocket.

 

Despite this book’s target audience (those from other countries who are coming to work in the U.S.), there are points Ghisini and Blendstrup make that American businesspeople would do well to remember:

 

  • Do You Really Need a Meeting?
  • Scheduling
  • Logistics
  • Agenda
  • How to conduct a meeting

 

…Unfortunately, too many businesses – and business people don’t follow these simple concepts.

 

Ghisini and Blendstrup pack a lot of information into the last few chapters, including the U.S. style of job interviews, dealing with American media, talking like a leader, and the reasons for – and methodologies of – networking.

 

 

Communicating the American Way is an excellent book on several different levels. As mention above, most of the topics and advice could very well be aimed at American workers (who could learn a thing or two from this book). Second, the authors make excellent use of contrast by comparing the prototypical U.S. business culture with the those in other countries. Third – and perhaps most the most satisfying – Ghisini and Blendstrup address the arguments one might have and address them accordingly. Finally, it’s well-organized, well-researched and well written.

 

Hey – it better be. American workers, after all, don’t have time to deal unorganized, poorly written books.

 

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December Reflections- what do we take for granted in the US [that we can't find elswhere]?


Saturday, February 2nd, 2008
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We live in a society in which the negative things make the news. There are many of us immigrants who live in the US and – in spite of the political disaster of the past (almost) 8 years – find things to be grateful for in this US society which we don’t find in other places. This was my Rotary Club, 4 minute vision statement, for Dec 2007.

 

A “Personal Ode to America” or what I am grateful for:

I am grateful for:

 

  • Being in a society which values diversity!

 

Where else can I have a birthday party with friends from 15 different countries – AND, that’s normal

 

  • Having had 3 businesses which went nowhere, and having people around me encourage me to do something different again.

 

  • Walking barefoot in my house, and my clients and friends rush to take off their shoes when they see that; in Germany, I was lectured, “ you can’t do that, Frau Doctor.”

 

  • Being given the chance to accomplish something because of what I was able to do and not because I was from a “famous family”, —-as was in the case of Hal Loucheim, who let me pitch classes to him for Stanford’s Continuing Studies and then gave me the opportunity to teach them.

 

  • Having a real equal opportunity in the little things, such as getting into swim classes for my kids because I was in line early (no one cut ahead because they knew the director)
  • Not having to bribe the butcher to get a good cut of meat because the country is exporting the best and keeping back the bad, as in the case of Brazil when I lived there.

 

People coming here to this country value that there is a fair system for all (or it tries to be).

 

  • Being surrounded by incredible people (smart, successful) —- and they talk to me and take me seriously! [For my interview research project, I went to over 40 different leaders in the Silicon Valley and they all gave me their time, a commodity which is priceless here.]

 

Would they have done that in France, Germany or Brazil?

  • Having a chance and the freedom to push and develop my business in any direction and there are no barriers put up by society and no one tells me, “this won’t work”

 

  • Experiencing the generosity of this community which helped me write 2 books in the last 16 months.

 

It is the American way to wish others well.And lastly, I am grateful for being a part of this group of wonderfully, warm, caring people who make me feel welcome.

 

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Comments from an Aussie blogger on our book: Communicating the American Way


Saturday, February 2nd, 2008

Des Walsh recently wrote a blog about our book, Communicating the American Way; I appreciate his comments (and I don’t know him) and for his taking the time to write a thoughtful review. He certainly is correct with some of his criticisms and I appreciate him pointing out items that don’t work for him. I don’t agree with his point, however, that when we talk about networking, we should have included , or other types of social networking – Web 2.0 – sites.

 

Networking in person still seems to resonate more with people, I think, maybe because it is a recognized good way of doing business in the Silicon Valley. I didn’t include online networking in the book, as I think that while social networking sites may often come from the US, it is not THE American Way and is popular around the world.

 

I had his whole review on this blog, but as I learned, it is against blog etiquette to post a whole blog taken from someone. So in the spirit of fairness, I will link to his blog, http://deswalsh.com/2008/01/31/communicating-successfully-in-corporate-america/ and hope that readers will visit his blog, leave a comment and help me make good on the blog etiquette I violated.

 

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How lucky am I working with international professionals in Silicon Valley!


Friday, October 12th, 2007

Angelika Blendstrup, Ph.D.

 

Living in the Silicon Valley means being around many different languages and cultures every day. In my job working with foreign professionals on their accents, presentation skills and understand the differences between their and the US business world gives me great challenges.

 

Life here is different. Business has its protocols and as such, they have to be understood. Many people think that since the US is such a relaxed and quite egalitarian culture, there are no hierarchies within a corporation. That isn’t true.

 

There are certain ways of reacting to and giving comments, for example, within meetings. It is not acceptable to say “no” outright. The formula is, “I don’t know if I quite agree” or, “have you thought about it this way?” People here don’t appreciate abruptness or directness (as it would be called in Germany or Israel) but like it when polite forms of communication are preserved.

 

Many of the clients I see are amazed to hear a) that these linguistic differences exist and b) that it is quite easy to fit in and not sound like such a rebel when that is certainly not the intention.

 

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Jack Welsh’s “Lebensweisheit” : The 10 Leadership Principles


Saturday, August 8th, 2009
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I read an interesting, short article that Peter Isackson wrote for the Intercultural Insights Group, he brought up the simple yet profound leadership principles that Jack Welsh developed in his time as CEO at GE. Are they as relevant today as they were when he wrote them?

*1.* There is only one way ˆ the straight way. It sets the tone of the
organization.

*2.* Be open to the best of what everyone, everywhere, has to offer;
transfer learning across your organization.
*3.* Get the right people in the right jobs ˆ it is more important than
developing a strategy.
*4.* An informal atmosphere is a competitive advantage.
*5.* Make sure everybody counts and everybody knows they count.
*6.* Legitimate self-confidence is a winner ˆ the true test of
self-confidence is the courage to be open.
*7.* Business has to be fun ˆ celebrations energise an organisation.
*8.* Never underestimate the other guy.

*9.* Understand where real value is added and put your best people there.
*10.* Know when to meddle and when to let go ˆ this is pure instinct.

I think that #4 is a point that would be debatable in Europe and Asia – what do you think, is the business trend toward informality or do these societies still want the hierarchic distance?
And, the notion of having fun [#7] when working as a prerequisite to working creatively and energetically still has not penetrated the minds of the many of the older kinds of organizations, but I think that without fun, why would people want to do their best work for a company?

When I present to foreign companies, and I mention that in the US, having fun is often a goal, I frequently get dismissive looks and comments that this is not something serious and as such isn’t important. Too bad, for as long as the notion of fun is still considered frivolous, it won’t happen.

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Communicating the American Way – An Excerpt (pdf file)


Tuesday, October 7th, 2008

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Interviewing Tips for non USians – an important aspect of successful business communications


Thursday, June 5th, 2008





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What do foreign-born career seekers have problems with when looking for a job in the US?

 

They don’t know how to “sell” themselves; they talk around questions and don’t back up their answers with examples and interesting stories. Even when they are MBA students at Stanford looking for that special job.

 

Many foreign-born professionals are taught in their own culture, that “tooting their own horn” [which is an American saying] is not something they should do.

 

One must be humble to be appreciated; it is not accepted to brag!

 

This doesn’t work in the US. If you don’t learn to talk about your outstanding deeds, no one else will.

 

Americans are raised to know how to put forth their strengths; they “put their best foot forward.”

 

The French, for example, can’t answer a question directly [get to the point], but rather, they go around it. The French form of communication, like the Asian one, is implicit and indirect and it takes a paradigm shift to get to our explicit and direct way of speaking in the US.

 

Example:

 

The interviewer asks the question: “Tell me about a strength you have and how you have demonstrated it.”

 

A French answer might go something like this: “Well, when I was 15, I was in the equivalent of the Boy Scouts in France and I worked with many other young boys; we went on trips where we built tents from tree leaves and had to prove our skills at camping in the wilderness; then when I was 18, I was able to do the same thing with a group of university students, where I was the team leader…..now, as a graduate student, I am able to really focus on directing other students and have demonstrated this very clearly especially in study groups.”

I think somewhere in that statement was a qualification as a leader…

The practiced American answer would have been, “My strengths are in organization skills and in making quick decisions which I have demonstrated in my last 2 jobs in Company X by doing Y.”

Americans learn in school and in business to get to the point. You are asked a question here and you answer it. No digression, no long elaboration.

 

I don’t think that foreigners realize how annoying it can be to listen to someone groping for facts and answers and how detrimental such evasive speech patterns are to the interviewee.

 

What foreigners don’t learn either is to give anecdotes and examples to back up the points they are trying to make.

You have to go through all the possible questions of an interview and systematically write down and practice the examples and stories that apply.

Therefore, after many practice sessions [which you really need to put in] with friends or with a coach, and having learned to be concise, provide examples, AND to sell yourself, your interviews will go much better and you will be called in to speak to the recruiters in person. Which should ultimately lead to a job!

For more detailed information on the differences giving interviews in the US and overseas, please look at Communicating the American Way, http://tinyurl.com/2yuzo4 where we give more examples and explanations on how to conduct an interview successfully [or come to Stanford University in the fall for a CS class I am going to teach].

 

If you have an additional interest in learning how foreign-born leaders have adapted to US business practices and made it in Silicon Valley, please look at They Made It!, How Chinese, French, German, Indian, Iranian, Israeli and other foreign born entrepreneurs contributed to high tech innovation in the Silicon Valley, the US and Overseas. http://tinyurl.com/3xjuk7 or https://professional-business-communications.com/books/tmi

 

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Do you really want to send that email?


Saturday, April 26th, 2008
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Don’t write bad emails.

Here are some examples of emails I received:

“Hi,

I read your web site. I want to know what class you teach. I also want hear from you answer to questions:

How much your classes cost

I work in South San Francisco and you to come at noon to my office

I want sessions on Saturday or Sunday afternoon

I have to buy a book or CDs or is includeded materials in price

Call tomorrow at 1 or 2pm

Signed,

some name”

Or how about this type of email:

“I have not good idea if I come next week. Too much deopendencies on work Wendsday and Toosday, andi have all days mainatanance last two days of

Month. Strduay morning may work, and it is high chance of Sunday – but only if weather cancell reservation incollege and I classes nest week.

Signed – some name”

 

Huh?

 

Ok, I work with foreign-born professionals and I do understand it is hard to write in English if you speak another language and just arrived. But these kinds of emails are not great to read.

 

Some quick and dirty rules:

 

Always re-read your emails before sending them

 

Did you hit the right tone, can you put in another please or thank you? The recipient can’t hear your voice so your email can sound downright rude.

 


Check your spelling and grammar.

 

If you aren’t good at them, learn! And in the meantime, have someone else read your emails before you send them.

 

Call

 

That black thing on your office desks still works [ hint: a phone] – call instead of emailing. Things can get settled faster and you can strike the right note. And you can explain what you need – in a nice, polite tone.

 

The American way of doing business may be seen as very direct, but being polite and considerate is still very much appreciated.

 

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Network outside of your comfort zone


Friday, March 14th, 2008
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Networking is a way of life for most Americans, it seems they start in Kindergarten and just keep on improving their networking skills.

 

For example, a friend of mine, Samba Murthy, gave some sage advice, urging Indian professionals to network among other groups.

He said, “The biggest problem with Indians is they tend to focus just on Indians and it takes an enormous kind of effort to get over this cultural handicap. The tendency is to flock together. You have to get out of your comfort zone. Because life is not just spice and curry, you know. There are other things, so keep an open mind”

 

And he is right. Many of us go to events where we know people, where we have a good time renewing friendships [which is a good thing], but where we fail to make new, meaningful business connections. This is certainly the case for those among us, who are born overseas and enjoy meeting with fellow countrymen/women.

 

However, how many of you [if you are from another culture] have braved your way into a Chinese networking event, for example, in the Silicon Valley? Or gone to see what the Hispanics or French were doing? It is originally daunting, but it pays off greatly over the years if you invest time in getting to know different people from different cultures and business areas.

 

There are many international groups here in SV (and I am sure overseas as well – think of university alumni groups) who are very welcoming and enjoy having professionals from other cultures visit and join them in their activities and events.

 

So:

• Get on email lists of the organizations whose focus you are interested in.

• Go regularly, every week, to meet people again and again. This is a good way to have significant contact, which will lead to something meaningful over time.

• Force yourself to stay until you have made contact with at least 5 people that evening. This is hard initially, if you don’t know anyone, but will pay off greatly.

• Volunteer to help with event organization and planning. Just because you are Indian or British, doesn’t mean you can’t volunteer at a German, French or Israeli organization. Help is accepted from everyone.

• Enjoy it. Networking should be fun and can give you a good opportunity to do something that initially benefits others, but will ultimate come back to enrich your life.

 

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